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The Path from Fear to Courage and JOY
At 60, I’m Taking on a Fitness Competition – Yes, You Read That Right! I can no longer conceal it beneath the rug because every time I try, it defiantly rises, challenging me to shatter the self-imposed limitations – the voices that insist I’m too old, not athletic enough, or that this is a pursuit for others, not for me.
We all have aspirations we’ve held close to our hearts, waiting for the so-called ‘right moment’ to turn them into reality. But is there ever really a ‘right moment’? Well, one of those moments is here for me, and I’m embracing it now, finally. In the end, it’s up to us to hold ourselves accountable and make our dreams a reality. That’s the decision I’ve made; I can’t rely on others. I must take the reins and steer my own course.
In March of 2024, I will conquer the fourth attempt at a fitness competition. It might sound crazy to have quit three times before, but back then, I was missing a vital ingredient—mental toughness. I used to be that scared little girl who’d shy away from anything challenging or painful. But today, something has changed. I’ve signed up again, not to impress anyone or prove anything, but purely to support my well-being. And guess what? I’m not just excited; I’m downright thrilled! In four months, I’ll stride across the stage in Las Vegas, donning a bikini at the age of 60, and I’ll be immensely proud of every step of this journey.
“The strongest foundation for success is built upon the cornerstone of self-belief, focused effort, and the relentless fuel of joy.”
Sure, I still have my moments of fear and doubt. What to wear, what to say, what to do—these questions linger, but their voices are no longer as commanding as they once were. I’ve adopted a new perspective—Who cares? Does it truly matter if I’m not 100% in perfect shape or if I did my absolute best? To bolster my courage and reliance, I’ve made a game-changing declaration: I am the STRONGEST WOMAN IN MY WORLD. Whether I’m doing deadlifts, taking 15,000 steps, or jumping rope under the cover of darkness, it’s a party of one, and that’s more than enough.
Now, let’s talk about our culture. We’ve become addicted to quick fixes, but I’ve discovered a different addiction—the “chair of joy.” Over the years, I’ve rewired my mind, honed my inner discipline, silenced that nagging inner critic, and even laughed at the absurdity of my mind’s occasional demands. I’m addicted to the work, and yes, some of it is challenging, but here’s the secret—it mostly unfolds in the mental arena during those quiet, solitary moments when I listen, disagree, and take action.
My passions and obsessions have a firm grip on me, leading me to discover one of life’s most valuable emotional tools—joy. It’s the driving force that reignites our spirits. As the wise Sheryl (yes, that’s me at age 60) once said, ‘Get addicted to the work of focusing on what truly matters.‘ I’ve come to relish the risks, find solace in my Chair of Joy™ Experience, which I indulge in 5-7 times a day, gain the mental clarity I need, remember my ‘why,’ and visualize the outcomes as I expect them to be. This is what rekindles the fire and keeps me in the game. I consider it a privilege to rise each day and do it all over again, living in the same 24 hours, over and over. How fortunate I am to be strong, healthy, and ever-ready for every challenge.
However, it’s not just about me; it’s about all of us. The JOYELY team is on this journey together. We’ve realized that to bring out our best, to show up strong, and to excel, we must confront our fears head-on. There’s no more room for hesitation or avoiding the critical task of unpacking the mental baggage. We’re doing this collectively. When we engage in our COJ together, we cast aside the barriers that hinder us, address them, and celebrate our small victories. This is us, working side by side, and cherishing each milestone.
I’m profoundly grateful for all of you—my team, my readers, and my fellow explorers on this path of self-discovery and empowerment. Together, we’re not merely stepping into our minds; we’re stepping into our futures—brimming with courage, hope, and unwavering resilience. Remember, a party of one can be the most empowering celebration you’ll ever attend! Join the movement, immerse yourself in your COJ, engage in physical activity every single day, commit to yourself, and relish the journey. ????
“In the silence of your Chair of Joy,’ you’ll discover the wisdom to conquer your fears and the strength to embrace life’s challenges with open arms.”
Now, let me ask you: What aspirations have you held close to your heart, waiting for the perfect moment to bring them to life? What dreams have you tucked away, thinking there would be a ‘right time’? It’s time to embrace them now, wouldn’t you agree?
Whatever it may be, I encourage you to go for it with all your heart and determination. The journey starts today, and together, we can make our dreams a reality. So, what’s on your list of aspirations?
JOYELY: Customizing Programs for Your Community
At JOYELY, we’re dedicated to enriching lives through emotional wellness, extending our reach far beyond corporate boundaries to embrace all ages. Our tailored programs promote belonging, self-worth, and connections:
- School Age Emotional Toolbox – Adventure Bear’s Journey and Beyond: Guiding young minds in emotional intelligence, Adventure Bear grows with children, imparting strength and courage.
- Individuals Alchemy Workshops: Targeting students, teachers, veterans, seniors, and non-profits, these workshops prioritize stress relief and enduring well-being.
- Entrepreneurs Live JOYELY: Specifically for business owners, this program merges mental acumen with heartfelt passion, empowering entrepreneurs.
- Corporate Culture of Joy: Elevating workplace happiness through team-building, wellness, and work-life balance strategies.
- City of Joy Community Vision: Our goal is a community filled with joy, connectedness, and positivity, earning the title of a “City of Joy.”
JOYELY is your path to emotional empowerment. Join us to embrace emotions effortlessly and return to life’s important aspects with grace.
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It’s time to immerse ourselves completely in the conversation of joy, to prioritize it above most things.. There’s no time to wait; it’s a matter of life and death.
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